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DVD Profiler Desktop and Mobile Registrantkemper
Vodka martini... shaken..
Registered: March 13, 2007
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Not looking for sympathy, just venting..... 15 year old daughter can't open her mouth with out telling a lie.... even when caught more lies come out in an attempt to cover the previous lie.... Since flogging is illegal along with using a rack and possibly an iron maiden.... whats a father to do?

Anybody want to take in a middle aged male and almost 900 DVDs until the daughter moves out?
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Registered: March 13, 2007
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I feel your pain.  Working on my third teenaged daughter, with two more to go...and people wonder why my hair is turning gray. 
No dictator, no invader can hold an imprisoned population by force of arms forever.
There is no greater power in the universe than the need for freedom.
Against this power, governments and tyrants and armies cannot stand.
The Centauri learned this lesson once.
We will teach it to them again.
Though it take a thousand years, we will be free.
- Citizen G'Kar
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Registered: May 19, 2007
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My 15-year-old son has been caught lying about his homework so I hit him where it really hurts - I take away his electronic rights (he's a gamer).  Plus while grounded from electronics, I make him clean the entire house.  As a single dad, the house can get kinda messy.
MicHaeL H.
Registered: January 24, 2009
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Anybody want to take in a middle aged male and almost 900 DVDs until the daughter moves out?


No, but I can take your daughter in for a while, I'll teach her some manners.
HAH, I just had to say it.

I mean, I'm pretty much her generation so... meh, maybe getting a little older.
So don't take it in a bad way. XD

Actually, I'm an 'Iron Maiden'-fan, IRONically.
I'll just use loud music on her.
- MicHaeL
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tonight's the night...
Registered: March 13, 2007
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Not looking for sympathy, just venting..... 15 year old daughter can't open her mouth with out telling a lie.... even when caught more lies come out in an attempt to cover the previous lie.... Since flogging is illegal along with using a rack and possibly an iron maiden.... whats a father to do?

Anybody want to take in a middle aged male and almost 900 DVDs until the daughter moves out?

No advice really, but I've been through it. Collecting DVDs and managing my collection in DVD Profiler keeps me sane.

My oldest daughter became a problem at around 15 and our life was hell until she was 18. She left home and has found her way over the last couple of years. The hell part is when they're living in your house and you're responsible for them, and they thwart everything.

I have 3 teenagers still in the house (one less than you Unicus...I'm not envious    ) and while they still try my patience, it's not as bad as when my oldest was still home.

But she and I are friendly now that we don't live together. Hang in there. There's hope. 
...James

"People fake a lot of human interactions, but I feel like I fake them all, and I fake them very well. That’s my burden, I guess." ~ Dexter Morgan
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Registered: October 31, 2007
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I feel your pain.  Working on my third teenaged daughter, with two more to go...and people wonder why my hair is turning gray. 


Hehe...I also have five daughters so I feel for you  Only one teen left who is now 19.
"The hell I will", John Wayne
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Registered: March 24, 2007
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You know how to if a teenager is lying?

When their mouth is moving.

Judge Judy.


Rory
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Registered: March 13, 2007
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Can't help you with the lying, Commander.

However, learn these lyrics from Rodney Atkins. You're gonna need them.

The Declaration of Independence
Think I could tell you that first sentence
But then I’m lost

I can't begin to count the theories
I've had pounded in my head
That I forgot

I don't remember all that Spanish
Or the Gettysburg address
But there is one speech from high school
I'll never forget

(Chorus)
Come on in boy sit on down
And tell me about yourself
So you like my daughter do you now?
Yeah we think she's something else
She's her daddy's girl
Her momma's world
She deserves respect
That’s what she'll get
Ain’t it son?
Hey y'all run along and have some fun
I'll see you when you get back
Bet I’ll be up all night
Still cleanin' this gun

Well now that I’m a father
I’m scared to death one day my daughter
Is gonna find
That teenage boy I used to be
That seems to have just one thing on his mind

She’s growin' up so fast
It won't be long before
I’ll have to put the fear of god into
Some kid at the door

(Chorus)
Come on in boy sit on down
And tell me about yourself
So you like my daughter do you now?
Yeah we think she's something else
She's her daddy's girl
Her momma's world
She deserves respect
That’s what she'll get
Now ain't it son?
Y’all go out and have some fun
I'll see you when you get back
Probably be up all night
Still cleanin' this gun

Now it's all for show
Ain’t nobody gonna get hurt
It’s just a daddy thing
And hey, believe me, man it works

(Chorus)
Come on in boy sit on down
And tell me about yourself
So you like my daughter do you now?
Yeah we think she's something else
She's her daddy's girl
Her momma's world
She deserves respect
That’s what she'll get
Now ain't it son?
Y’all run along and have a little fun
I'll see you when you get back
Probably be up all night
Still cleanin' this gun

Son, now y'all buckle up and have her back by te- let's say about nine...thirty.
Drive safe.

Skip
ASSUME NOTHING!!!!!!
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Outta here

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Strength Through Unity
Registered: May 19, 2007
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Quoting MicHaeL H.:
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Actually, I'm an 'Iron Maiden'-fan, IRONically.
I'll just use loud music on her.

She'd probably like this.
More effective: the Calvin & Hobbes method: Elevator music! And play it reeaally silent!
It all seems so stupid, it makes me want to give up!
But why should I give up, when it all seems so stupid?


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OK... you guys are scaring me now... my one and only daughter just recently turned 13.    My biggest problem so far is that she is always on the phone.
Pete
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TaH pagh taHbe'!
Registered: March 14, 2007
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OK... you guys are scaring me now... my one and only daughter just recently turned 13.    My biggest problem so far is that she is always on the phone.


Same here: my daughter (13) is always on the phone as well. She recently discovered the skype video communication. I'm so happy that I have a phone and internet flatrate!   
Thorsten
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Tell me about it... if it wasn't for the flat rate phone bill there is no way she would be on the phone the way she is now. 13 years old and there is time (on weekends) where she is still on the phone when I am ready to go to bed! who knows how long she is up gabbing with her friends. 
Pete
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I experienced a similar problem with one of my step-daughters. She's 28 now and I don't see much improvement. She doesn't live with me now and of course, she hates me and won't talk to me but I take a bit of comfort in that. Some make bad choices no matter what you do and you can't blame yourself. In her defense, her father is that way too.

My advise is do the best you know how and get a hobby to help maintain your sanity.
Dan
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Registered: March 14, 2007
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My oldest daughter became a problem at around 15 and our life was hell until she was 18. She left home and has found her way over the last couple of years. The hell part is when they're living in your house and you're responsible for them, and they thwart everything.

Tell me about it. My eldest is 16 and our life is hell when she's at home. Luckily, the younger one is almost 4 and she helps to ease the pain.
Martin Zuidervliet

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This may sound kinda backwards. I raised two sons. Overall, they have been great. While growing up, they always seemed to have a bunch of nice girls around. And we made it convenient for them to be around without policing them, and I think their parents trusted us. The kids knew the rules, but they also knew we had no way of or intention of enforcing them. It was an Honor system. And there was always plenty of food, music / toys and space to gather with other friends - clean up after you're done was the main rule. Some of those friendships have continued into adulthood.

So maybe one possibility is to foster a trusting relationship with some of the boys (and girls) that come into her life and try to make them be comfortable being around the house and you. If they mess up, at least they'll be close by ... 

Footnote: Our philosophy was to give lots of rope and then try to find ways to encourage them not to uncoil it.
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You want to hear it bad, 

I went through it with 2 STEP daughters.

I feel for all of you
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